Ways to Express Love

To Your Spouse

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”

Building and maintaining a healthy relationship requires effort from both partners. Clear communication, appreciation, quality time, and personal time are all essential. Disagreements are normal, but it’s important to attack the problem and not the person. Building trust is also key, and in this blog post, we’ll delve deeper into ways to build trust in a relationship.

Communicate Clearly and Often

Clear communication is vital to building trust in a relationship. To communicate effectively, it’s essential to listen, listen, and listen some more. It’s important to face the speaker and maintain eye contact, and to listen to non-verbal cues. Interrupting, jumping to conclusions, or imposing your opinions or solutions can all undermine effective communication. Stay focused on what the speaker is saying, and avoid planning what to say next.

Who you’re talking to matters. How you communicate with your partner will depend on the nature of your relationship. Are they your equal, breadwinner, servant, sexual partner, friend, or soul mate? Adjust your communication accordingly.

Disagreements are normal, and it’s important to attack the problem and not the person. It’s also important to be complimentary, not competitive. After all, you’re two people, usually opposites or complementary in nature, and you will have disagreements.

Speak Their Language and Show Appreciation

Expressing gratitude is a powerful way to build trust in a relationship. It’s important to speak your partner’s language and use phrases that resonate with them. Say, “I’m so grateful,” “I appreciate it,” “Thanks for your hard work on this,” “I couldn’t have done it without you,” “I owe you one,” “Much obliged,” “Thanks for having my back,” and “Please accept my deepest gratitude.”

A Healthy Balance of “Me” and “Us” Time

Couples need to make time for each other. This could mean meeting each other for lunch, sharing a quiet evening together, using trusted relatives or friends as free child care, making chores fun, turning TV time into couple time, enjoying breakfast for two, getting physical, or going undercover and exploring life on a whole other level. The key is to break the routine and find time to connect with each other.


Couples should also plan for personal time. It’s important to keep work in perspective and share some normal work time with each other.


Building Trust

Building trust takes time, but it’s an essential part of a healthy relationship. Here are some ways to build trust:

  • Align your words and actions: Trust grows when your words consistently match your actions. If you do one thing and say another, you’ll form a breach. Be aware of your actions and correct them when they differ from your words.
  • Show respect: Respect is conveyed in the tone of your words, the time you spend together, and the support you show for your partner’s feelings and interests.
  • Compromise your values: If your values are at odds, put everything on the table and talk it out. Name what your core values are, and come up with ways to honor both.
  • Be honest: Do what you said you’d do, be emotionally honest during conversations, and don’t forget the negative impact of little white lies.
  • Say you’re sorry: Self-awareness and humility are crucial. Admit your mistakes and show your partner you care about the relationship more than being right.
  • Focus on connection: Prioritizing a connection is important in maintaining a sense of trust. When you get a pocket of free time, even if it’s 30 minutes, use it to connect with your partner.


Building a strong and healthy relationship takes time, effort, and commitment. By communicating clearly and often, making time for each other, understanding that it’s okay to disagree, and building trust, you can lay the foundation for a lasting and fulfilling relationship with your partner. Remember that building trust takes time and patience, but it’s worth the effort in the end. With these tips in mind, you can take your relationship to the next level and create a lifetime of love and happiness.

“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.”

― Shannon L. Alder